One of the tricky ones, strong emotions, these can be with us from childhood or just our everyday fears, but overcoming them or should I say becoming more comfortable with them is possible
There are a few ways you can approach strong emotions, and they are different for everyone, however experience is the master. Doing something a number of times also helps but if you find that even more upsetting or difficult then taking your time and giving yourself space is essential. Being gentle and kind to yourself.
So lets look into strong overwhelming emotions. First, do we know the source, the idea the circumstance the experience that birth them? If we know the root we can go back and take action even if it feels daunting. If so, someone can support you, this is where you may a need a push or assistance that’s ok.
So, firstly, time is key, whatever you take action on needs time, and space. This happens when you start to give that emotion attention in a different way. The mind may not like it but it’s ok, its something you are wanting to change. It’s natural for the mind and your emotions to do this. Therefore, attention will cause disruption but hey that’s what we want to do, to overcome them or have a deeper understanding of them to feel more positive about them.
Next is expressing them in a different avenue, for example when I was going through the emotions of anger for years, these were already being expressed in a negative destructive, harmful way until I focused or directed them through the arts which was music. You might want to use something else, but while I was using music creation I was getting in tune to what I was feeling by writing music. You can do this through sports or anything you feel connected too.
Self-help books are amazing, the ones that help with emotional regulation and how the mind makes predictions and recalls emotions, a great book is called How emotions are made. These types of books help with understanding the brain, nervous system and linking them to events etc.
If possible, taking breaks from heavy overwhelming environments. If you can, this will enable you to look at things in a different light. Meaning self reflection. We need many quiet and silent periods in our lives to go over all that we say and do, and how we behave. This is difficult to do when going 100mph.
That leads onto being present, presence with your being allows us to reflect, change and adjust, but this needs priority and discipline to go through the tough motions of sitting with the emotions. Once we do this enough times when we go back into difficulties or hardships we can master our emotions at that time and then go over how we did. It then becomes a learning curve for us. We won’t always be controlled and relaxed as we are human its ok to be emotional an expressive and outspoken but we will be able to be pose and calm and not allow strong emotions to flood over us when we are alone with our thoughts
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