Self denial is not always a bad thing, it does really depend on how much denial there is in oneself that actually starts to create destructive behaviours that damage yourself or others around you. Self denial sometimes needs just another way for you to perceive or get insight to that thing that might be blocking or hurting you.
We are either agreeable or disagreeable to our own behaviours. Being told off or someone flagging our bad traits etc is dependent on who is identifying it, how close you are to them and is the timing right. Timing is important here, we cannot rush or force someone to change, real change happens when it becomes someones own individual truth.
It is more beneficial for someone to realise or release the very thing that may have been holding them back. It is counter-productive to judge, blame and condemn someone for their behaviour. Learning is a journey and there are many lessons and experiences in between before an acknowledgment happens. It is better to be a natural and organic change in a sense. Self acceptance is from self, it’s the best and most sustainable way. Guidance is good but it takes the right time and person to help foster positive change.
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