I was talking to a friend not so long ago about how our close, loved ones can affect us the most emotionally. However, she pointed out that is not the case for everyone, for some it maybe external issues that are a problem, and that some of us are not that affected by people.
It was interesting as she said I was relational, meaning that the connection with people is essential for me. Within psychology being “relational is living in relation to others in recognition of an interconnectedness with others. It means, in our interactions with others, being engaged, centered, grounded, clear, generous, humble and kind. Which holds that the sense of connection of healthy relationships provide an essential aspect of human well-being, suggesting that when this connection is absent, mental and emotional concerns can result”.
It’s interesting when you look into this, when you look at your life over time, is it people and relationships that affect you the most or is it just situations or external material things gone wrong that cause you emotional upset or distress. Sometimes it can be a mix of both, however usually its one that outweighs the other. Depending on our sensitivity levels, and how grounded we are, and our perceptions, we will find which one gets to us the most, and from there we can work on improving how we respond and experience people or things in our lives.
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