There comes periods in our lives when we start to avoid stress, and it is called ‘avoidance coping’ and it usually happens when there is more than one or two stresses in our lives that overtake our well-being and we become numb or our mind goes a hundred miles an hour. This is natural and can happen to anyone. Here I wanted to give you some tips on how to help avoidance coping, it is a defence mechanism that the mind uses as a default depending on our sensitivity levels and what we can handle, if there is an overload of external stresses mixed with internal emotional distress we can start to avoid any small tasks, any responsibility big or small or anything that involves us. It can be frustrating it can feel like we have a huge burden, and sometimes we can feel like we just want to be away somewhere free. It’s a horrible feeling, but what actually helps is by actively moving forward towards the task/responsibility that is at hand actually minimises and helps reduce further stress.
Therefore active behavioural coping addresses the problem directly and active cognitive coping involves you changing how you think about the stressor. By trying either one of the two we can reduce the stress, however sometimes this does not always work depending on the person, but by addressing the issue there and then in real time and observing how we avoid the stress can help us immensely, this is something I never did in the past but doing this now has helped me look at avoidance coping in a different way, so now at least if I don’t directly put myself forward to address the issues. I know at some point that this is something I can do to minimise the current feeling I’m going through once I’m ready too.
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