It’s been a hard year, and amongst all the demands of work and others responsibilities around us plus worries of future outcomes it has made it extremely difficult. If you’re a relational person like myself, or the other word usually is called empath. People close to us can have a huge effect on our mood or wellbeing. Or even work colleges can have this affect as we spend 70% of our time at work. Our managers especially may have this effect on us if they feeling stressed themselves.
Maintaining our emotional wellbeing in these times consist of not only being patience and gentle with ourselves but those around us. This is something that takes time to learn and balance. Balancing is key. The question is; but how do you balance both patience and gentleness internally and externally. Firstly, by putting yourself first, take care of your needs and express these. Let others know your capacity mentally and physically. This can be hard I know, but doing this can allows others to be more patience and gentle with you as they know what you’re going through. This is not a weakness this is a strength. Take everything now with ease. Again, that is putting yourself first, taking time to do things in your own time and emotional/mental capacity. If we don’t, we tend to be less patient and gentle with others around us. If our cup overflows with emotional labour be burn out and then react negatively to those around us. Note, this is not something that is perfected it is just regaining internal awareness to the triggers in our inner and outer world. Another positive behaviour is taking a digital detox. Take time out of social media and go into nature or practice having your phone next to you without picking it up and replace it with a physical action, eg: drawing, house work, that project you wanted to do, reading, listening to music without any interaction with devices. Practicing and testing your own self. Challenging yourself to be still.
You may of heard of gaining stillness, that is being calm, clear and empty of negative thought patterns. This is a practice that is of great value when trying to gain clarity and reset. Gentleness is a large part of self care and love. Therefore, when demands increase and you feel more negative emotions being mindful of putting yourself first and being a little be selfish as they say puts the situations and circumstances into perspective. Furthermore, when this is mixed with patience then you start to balance your internal emotional and social emotions from others.
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